How do you Create Family Culture? What is Family Culture?
Creating Family Culture is the idea of purposely cultivating a unique culture and atmosphere for your family. Instead of letting life happen to you, create a mission statement about your values and abide by that. Decide your priorities and raise your kids and live your life according to those choices. Take time to decide what your life will look like, what is important to you and really living life with purpose. I have all these vague ideas of what I want my life and my family to look like, but no real direction. Having a Mission Statement will help guide me into starting to make these plans.
Dating someone who already has a child was entering into a family unit that already existed- it was Scott and Malcolm the dynamic duo. And they had so much history without me it was hard to step into that and feel included. As my co-worker joked, I became “instant mom” overnight. Our family may not have grown organically, but Scott is amazing at always making sure I do feel included and reinforcing the idea that we are a family. I think this makes it even more important for us to decide together how we want to be as parents, as partners and as a family.
Step 1 in Creating Family Culture: Make a list of what’s important to you & your partner
- Partners – Working together against a problem, not against each other. A strong core unit to lead our family.
- Romance-I always want to have a spark with Scott. I want to be an example to our kids of how to treat your partner, how healthy romance should look and inspire them to find that for themselves.
- Time together as a family– Malcolm is still little enough that he needs constant supervision and parenting, yet I’m surprised that it’s still a challenge finding time and activities for us all to do together! During the day, we tag team playing with him in order to work or have personal time. We try to choose at least one activity to do together each night.
- Making a big deal of holidays– My mom was a Pinterest mom, before Pinterest was even a thing! She always had creative ideas to make birthdays and holidays fun and special and I want to make sure my kids feel the same way.
- Staying connected with extended family– I want to make sure that I stay close with my parents and my siblings and create meaningful relationships with Scott’s sister and parents.
- Humor– Facing life with optimism and laughter.
- Doing what’s best for the kids- Malcolm needs so much special attention and making sure we are always acting with his best interests at heart.
Step 2: Create a Mission Statement and turn your values into a game plan
When I asked Scott what he thought our family mission statement should be, he suggested (after watching season 3 of Cobra Kai) “Win at all costs”. Simple, concise, determined, but not quite what I was envisioning. I was thinking something more along the lines of:
Celebrating life with love and laughter. Taking care of each other and making the most of our time together as a unit, a household, and a family.
I think that about sums up all the values we hold, without being complicated or too long. Now to get this embroidered on a pillow or something….
Step 3: Live life according to that Mission Statement– implement traditions and strategies to reinforce these values
The days are long, but the years fly by. I don’t want to look back at all the regular everydays my life was filled with, and realize I was saving my values for special occasions or forgot about them all together. What did I do today to bring humor, love, and quality time with my family into my day?
Do you have a family mission statement? What are your family values?
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